October 10, 2013
Sometimes you go into shock when something happens to your family. And you really get shook up when something happens to your friends.
What is a friend? Is it a person who you have known all your life or can it possibly be a person that you only met a few years ago? A person that you come in contact with just every now and then and when you do, you greet each other as your “long lost pal”. Even though you don’t see or hear from them every day, you know you can pick up the phone and ask them anything, anytime!
I had a friend like that. I use the term “had” because she is no longer on this earth. She has gone to a place that we always dream of and hope we will be one day. HEAVEN.
Years ago, children weren’t allowed to attend funerals. It was hard for me to adjust to the fact that I had to go to a funeral after I was an adult. Especially when it was a family member. Today it occurred to me that I had only attended six of these events. I have attended many viewings to say a last good-bye.
Yesterday as I arrived at the funeral home, I was very surprised to see people standing in line to see my friend. I knew she was the “pillar of the community” but did not realize that so many people would be there. But it came to me that if she was so friendly to me, a new comer to the community; just think how many lives she had touched. One of her daughters asked me, “What am I going to do without her?” After I left, it hit me what am I going to do without her?
So many of us go through our lives and make loads of friends. They come and go. We move and acquire other friends. We go to work and make more friends. The last thing my Dad told me before I left home was “you will make the best friends at church”! He was so right. I have moved many times and as I look back on those years, the most memorable moments are things I did with FRIENDS.
I have mentioned it many times in this column that we should pick up the phone and call a friend. I do just that! I will tell them you just popped into my head and I had to call and see how you are doing. Some time I catch someone that really needs help at that moment. Some time they have had a stressful moment and just needs to vent. There again I have shared moments of great sadness with the friend saying, “So glad you called, I really needed someone right this moment”. Then sometimes YOU answer the phone just when you needed someone to talk to. The Hubby got such a call the other night. His daughter said, “I just needed to hear your voice” Gee, what I would give to hear my Dad’s voice again.
You know I mentioned in one of my columns that I was not going to say “enjoy the moment” because I thought I had worn you out with it. But I really think it is necessary to remind you once again that really that is all you have. I want to ask you a question, what are you going to do with that moment? Think outside the box. That’s right, give a thought to that friend that might need you. If you don’t have a friend, then it is time to make one. Just remember people in this world need each other.
Till next time, this is Tulip Green rejoicing that I have so many great friends! They are like GOLD. Bye now!