Perhaps you are acquainted with people who are constantly complaining. Granted, some complaining may be appropriate when dealing with aches and pains, family and personal problems, or large scale traumas. There is a place for us to express our troubles to friends who can console us. But a limit should be observed complaining about the lives and actions of other people.

One can get into a habit of talking about people and their troubles. This may be done in a detached fashion sticking only to the facts. But usually opinions about what is wrong and right are forthcoming. Instead of talking about our issues, which on health issues can become an “organ” recital, we choose to complain about others. Complaining shifts the focus of fault from us to them.

Jesus had good advice about this. “Do not judge, so that you may not be judged.” “Why do you see the speck in your neighbor’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? Or how can you say to your neighbor, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye, while the log is in your own eye?’ You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your neighbor’s eye.” Matt. 7:1, 3-5)

When we complain about others we should take a look at ourselves first. Rather than giving our attention to the faults of others we can pray to be given strength to be servants of love. “In heart and mind and body this day, let me serve love.”

If you have trouble finding anyone who is good to be with, take Mother Teresa’s advice: “The world is full of good people. If you can’t find one, be one.”